Are you living congruently with your goals?

The Importance of Establishing Congruence Between Actions and Goals

Establishing congruence between your actions and goals is very important for a healthy life. Through my work at OC Mind Wellness, I have come to understand that most people know what their challenges are and even see the core source of these difficulties. People sometimes also have long-term goals and a well thought out plan to achieve them. However, I have seen these same people become “stuck” despite their awareness. Therefore, establishing congruence between your actions and goals can prevent a feeling of being stagnant or stuck in life.

What creates this stagnant space? How does it get in the way of what you KNOW and what you want to achieve? Asking these questions is surely a start.

The “Rut” of Living Incongruently

What I have observed is that many become subject of living incongruently with their goals. We are all guilty of getting stuck in this rut at some point. An example of this is maintaining a routine, better yet a series of actions that are non-conducive to your goals, yet continuing to carry them out because you feel that you “have to” e.g., getting a degree your parents want you to get, but you have no interest in it. A second and more straightforward example is putting off registering for classes you need (procrastinating) therefore risking not getting these classes and delaying completion of the degree you want.

The thing is, it does not only stop there. Incongruence between your goals and your actions leads to you experiencing symptoms of sadness, emptiness, frustration, disappointment and sometimes even shame. When you start to live in harmony with your goals, these symptoms decrease because you are engaged in the activities that will get you closer to where you want to be. Consequently, there will be evidence in your environment that you are making progress toward your actual goals!

“Living CONGRUENTLY with your goals entails involving yourself in activities that will get you there. Being honest with yourself is truly the number one rule!” -Dee Duran

Steps to Maintain Congruence

Here are some helpful steps to maintain CONGRUENCE:

  1. Ask yourself: “What do I want to achieve?”
  2. Ask yourself: “What are the actions I need to get involved in to achieve what I want?”
  3. Take action and start these activities
  4. Track your actions by keeping a journal, notebook, calendar (whatever works for you).
  5. Check in and ask yourself often: “Were these activities congruent with what I want?”
  6. Track your progress regularly: what was your baseline (where you were when you started) and what have you achieved since you began to take the necessary steps? (Every step, no matter how small counts!)
  7. Reinforce yourself/treat yourself for taking action and celebrate milestones

TIPS:

  • The steps above are cyclical, meaning you are always carrying out these processes to achieve your goals
  • Check in with yourself regularly (how do I feel? what actions did I engage in? are they in line with what I want?)
  • If you fall off a little, it is okay! You can always start again!

Lastly, if you are would like to work on establishing congruence between your actions and your goals feel free to contact us.

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